Daddy

Millennials, we’re a fascinating generation. A portion of us grew up in a loving, healthy two-parent-household. Another portion grew up with a single mother because their father’s were either on drugs, dead or in jail. Our generation is this paradigm. We keep clashing with each other because we don’t understand how to interact with one another. There are many contributing factors to this problem but, today we’re focusing on daddy. We need you daddies.

We all know and hear on regular bases how fatherless women are broken. Fatherless women, can not hold sustainable relationships because the guy will never live up to her expectations. The love she needs is from her father. I think I've experienced something similar for a while. All of my relationships begin to fail after my daddy was sentenced 55 years in prison. I would leave a guy before he could leave me like my father did. Now, I've learned to cope with my dad being in the penitentiary. I talk to him daily and visit him monthly. Although, I have my moments when I want my daddy by my side. *Order my book, A Skinny Girl's Skeleton for the story* (shameless plug).

Fatherless men, yes, y’all. Although most guys don’t want to admit this, it tremendously affects them. Only a handful of men in my life have a father. Many men have developed feminine traits because they grew up watching women. For example, their attitudes and how they deal with problems. Some guys will argue up and down like a woman.

This isn’t the absolute worst part. It gets worst because now we all have to learn to deal with each other on an intimate level. A fatherless child dates a two-parent-household child, and they have no idea how to cohabit let only have a successful marriage. The fatherless child has no idea how to play their role because they haven't had adequate time to observe a relationship. Simple things are now difficult things. For instance, learning to let their partner help them; knowing when to pick and choose their arguments; effectively communicating wants and problems and the list goes on. On the other hand, the two-parent-home child can lack the patience and will power to teach them what they’ve learned. Lot’s of times they will run away only to run right into someone else with the same issue. Then the cycle continues.

Soon, we will all be broken because we aren't working together to fix the problem. Instead, we are creating more problems and dying alone. It makes you wonder, is breaking up worth it? I mean, if you’re being abused then get out of there ASAP. But, if communication, patience, love and forgiveness can solve your problems then why not work it. This is how we break the cycle. We stop running from it. Instead, we go through it. I bet a beautiful friendship, love and lifetime of amazing memories will come from this. The longest, strongest relationships are made by two people who choose to fight through it all. Daddy messed us up, but we can fix it.

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